{"id":4015,"date":"2026-11-03T23:10:49","date_gmt":"2026-11-04T05:10:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ministeriomct.org\/?p=4015"},"modified":"2026-11-03T23:21:17","modified_gmt":"2026-11-04T05:21:17","slug":"vivir-el-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ministeriomct.org\/en\/vivir-el-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Vivir el amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vivir el amor<\/strong><\/a>
R. Esteban Montilla, Ph.D.<\/strong><\/p>\n

El amor es una capacidad y una pr\u00e1ctica relacional que integra afecto, conocimiento, cuidado y responsabilidad por el bien de otra persona, con respeto a su dignidad y libertad. Como capacidad, comprende la posibilidad de interesarse por alguien y de responder a su presencia. Como pr\u00e1ctica, toma forma en la participaci\u00f3n concreta en el v\u00ednculo. Lo que sentimos se expresa junto con lo que decidimos y hacemos, de modo que la intenci\u00f3n merece atenci\u00f3n, al igual que los efectos de nuestras acciones en la vida de quien las recibe. Las maneras de amar var\u00edan seg\u00fan la relaci\u00f3n, ya sea de pareja, familiar, de amistad, laboral o comunitaria. En cada una, la cercan\u00eda admite distintos grados y formas de intimidad.<\/p>\n

Los diez elementos del amor se agrupan en cuatro dimensiones. La del trato re\u00fane la amabilidad, la compasi\u00f3n y la paciencia; la del v\u00ednculo comprende el compromiso, la pasi\u00f3n y la cercan\u00eda. En la dimensi\u00f3n del bien del otro, la asistencia y el cuidado constituyen un solo elemento, y el respeto a la libertad, otro. La humildad y la justicia conforman la dimensi\u00f3n de las condiciones. Esta organizaci\u00f3n permite observar pr\u00e1cticas relacionadas entre s\u00ed sin fragmentar a la persona. Tambi\u00e9n permite reconocer qu\u00e9 necesita atenci\u00f3n en un v\u00ednculo. Podemos hablar con amabilidad, por ejemplo, y dejar de cumplir los compromisos asumidos.<\/p>\n

Para explorar estas pr\u00e1cticas se propone la Escala de Pr\u00e1cticas de Amor (EPA), un cuestionario de 70 \u00edtems dirigido a personas de 18 a\u00f1os o m\u00e1s. Cada participante responde pensando en un v\u00ednculo espec\u00edfico, como el que mantiene con su pareja, con una amistad, con un hijo o con una hija. La escala contiene siete frases para cada uno de los diez elementos, con opciones de respuesta del 1 al 5 que indican en qu\u00e9 medida cada afirmaci\u00f3n describe a quien responde. Son autodescripciones, no frecuencias de comportamiento. Las respuestas permiten examinar c\u00f3mo la persona reconoce estas pr\u00e1cticas en su manera de relacionarse, sin determinar cu\u00e1nto ama, comparar relaciones ni establecer una conclusi\u00f3n cl\u00ednica.<\/p>\n

Como recurso complementario, el mapa de observaci\u00f3n narrativa invita a reflexionar sobre las experiencias de las \u00faltimas cuatro semanas, sin asignar puntuaciones ni niveles. Para cada dimensi\u00f3n, la persona reconoce una pr\u00e1ctica que haya realizado, describe una situaci\u00f3n concreta que la evidencie e identifica un aspecto que desea cultivar. La reflexi\u00f3n queda as\u00ed vinculada a experiencias vividas y a posibilidades para cuidar mejor la relaci\u00f3n. https:\/\/youtu.be\/aDYNjdViKZI<\/p>\n

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Living Love<\/strong>
R. Esteban Montilla, Ph.D.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Love is a capacity and a relational practice that integrates affection, knowledge, care, and responsibility for another person’s well-being, while respecting their dignity and freedom. As a capacity, it encompasses the ability to take an interest in someone and to respond to their presence. As a practice, it takes shape through concrete participation in the relationship. What we feel is expressed alongside what we decide and do, so that intention deserves attention, as do the effects of our actions on the life of the person receiving them. The ways of loving vary depending on the relationship\u2014whether it is a romantic partnership, a family relationship, a friendship, a work relationship, or a community relationship. In each, closeness allows different degrees and forms of intimacy.<\/p>\n

The ten elements of love are grouped into four dimensions. The dimension of treatment encompasses kindness, compassion, and patience; the dimension of connection includes commitment, passion, and closeness. In the dimension of the other\u2019s well-being, assistance and care constitute a single element, and respect for freedom is another. Humility and justice make up the dimension of conditions. This framework allows us to observe interrelated practices without fragmenting the person. It also allows us to recognize what needs attention within a relationship. For example, we can speak kindly while failing to fulfill our commitments.<\/p>\n

To explore these practices, we propose the Scale of Practices of Love (EPA), a 70-item questionnaire designed for people aged 18 and older. Each participant answers while thinking of a specific relationship, such as with their partner, a friend, or a son or daughter. The scale contains seven statements for each of the ten elements, with response options ranging from 1 to 5 that indicate the extent to which each statement describes the respondent. These are self-descriptions, not measures of behavioral frequency. The responses allow us to examine how the person recognizes these practices in their relationships, without determining how much they love, comparing relationships, or drawing a clinical conclusion.<\/p>\n

As a complementary resource, the narrative observation map invites reflection on experiences from the past four weeks, without assigning scores or levels. For each dimension, the person identifies a practice they have engaged in, describes a specific situation that exemplifies it, and identifies an aspect they wish to cultivate. The reflection is thus linked to lived experiences and opportunities to better nurture the relationship. https:\/\/youtu.be\/aDYNjdViKZI?si=mddh41lHUa_bia21<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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